Flaws vs Flawless

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So Flawless by Beyonce & Nicki Minaj is one of my favorite songs. It makes me feel empowered and great, but the truth is I can’t really relate, cause I’m no Beyonce. But this week I found a new song, which is amazing by the way Flaws by Bastille it is not a new song, but it is new to me since I just found it. But the song is not the issue here.

The issue is flaws in general. It is clear to me that everyone has flaws, even Beyonce (remember she photoshops her instagrams). But the problem is not the flaws you’ve got, but how you bear them. You can choose to hide them or you can choose to make the best out of them. The truth is hiding them might be exhausting, since they are a part of yourself. You can pretend to be as flawless as you want, but the truth is that you need your flaws to be who you really are.

I think the key to accepting yourself and being happy is acknowledging that you are not perfect, but that doesn’t make you any less valuable. I can’t imagine a life in which I’d have to pretend I’m perfect all the time. I probably wouldn’t be able to manage it for a whole day. I think the key to being flawless is being confident in your worth and on your flaws.

Being confident is sending a Snapchat that says “I woke up like this” and look terrible and OWN that snap. So if they ask me if I’d rather be flawless or have flaws, I’d pick my flaws every single time. The truth is I don’t know who I’d be without them, they’ve been a part of me always.

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The Beauty of Heartbreak

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There is a certain grace to having your heart broken, this words couldn’t be any more true, at least for me. My friends ask me why if there are some nice guys who invite me out I decide to stick to the ones that break my heart. Maybe it’s true I love a bad boy, but I believe this is a lame excuse. I think the truth is I am addicted to suffering. Maybe I’ve learned to live like this. Like the Boys Like Girls song says “I’ve learned to love the pain cause that’s the only way that I know how to feel”

I love heartbreak songs they make me happy, they make me feel better. I like having my heartbroken because I love feeling. I love strong emotions. I like getting my heart broken and then getting over it just to get my heart broken again. Maybe I’m a masochist, but I enjoy a bit of suffering every once in a while and I believe everyone else does as well.

There are so many breakup songs and broken heart songs and most of them are amazing; they make me scream and release tension. But you can’t really get inspired and listen to them when you are happy all the time. There comes a day when you need some suffering, when you need some heartbreak in order to enjoy your sadness. You need to have an excuse to eat a pint of ice cream and watch sad movies and sleep till late.

Having your heart broken makes you human, it shows how much a person can feel. Even the most obnoxious or serious people you know get softer when it comes to sadness. Sadness shows that even the biggest bitch has a heart, and that is just so pretty and wonderful.

So next time you get your heart broken you might as well enjoy it. You never know when you’ll be able to feel that way again.

Songs of the Week. October 13

So this week I rediscovered my love for Maroon 5. I loved the first album they released but the next records didn’t really get to me. However, the album they just released is pretty amazing and you’ll see a couple of songs in this weeks playlist. I’m in a good mood this week so you’ll notice the songs are pretty upbeat and happy. Enjoy!

Animals – Maroon5

My Heart is Open – Maroon5 ft Gwen Stefani

Believer – American Authors

Reflections – Misterwives

Shower – Becky G

Mirrors – Justin Timberlake

If you would like to make some songs suggestions comment below

Objectification in a man’s world.

It’s a man’s world. We hear this all the time, we even believe it. I probably hear it at least twice a day since I’m a law student, and law is considered a man’s thing.

Today I witnessed one of the most hurtful things I’ve ever seen. I work as a freelancer for a magazine, and today I went to a meeting with the editor and chief. The editor is a woman; a powerful, strong, intelligent and independent woman. She is someone I really admire, I wanted to be like her when I grew up. She’s always talking about the struggles of being a woman editor in a man’s world; she knows how hard it is to gain credibility and respect as a woman who is in charge. But today she told a girl who works with us that if she wanted to succeed she should probably wear shorter dresses and tighter pants in order to get the attention from the best and most important authors. This broke my heart. I had the best impression of her and now it’s been shattered. How could she say something like this? How could this advice come from a woman who has battled everything to get to where she is?

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It really hurts when a man objectifies you, but it’s even more hurtful when another woman does. Women are supposed to help each other since we all overcome the same struggles. Women are not supposed to drag you down like that. Where’s the respect? How are men ever gonna value us when we don’t even value each other? As women we are supposed to help each other, build each other, support each other, not destroy each other.

If you ask me, I would never say I’m a feminist, I just believe in equality and fair treatment. I believe we are all equals, but we will never be treated as equals when we can’t even respect each other. Today my heart was broken and I feel sorry for every women who has received this kind of advice. You should always acknowledge your worth and ignore anyone who tries to put you down. Maybe this is a man’s world after all, and it will continue to be if we don’t even respect each other.